How to Explain Frequent Moves to Young Kids

Military kids are resilient, but even the toughest kids can struggle with frequent moves. If your child is asking, “Why do we have to move again?”—you’re not alone. Explaining the 'why' and helping them cope is one of the most important things you can do to create stability during change.

Here are strategies to help your child process and adjust to your military lifestyle:

👂 Start with Empathy
Kids need to feel heard before they’re ready to hear. Sit with them and say: “Tell me how you feel about the move.” Validate their feelings—whether it’s anger, sadness, or even excitement.

📚 Use Visual Aids & Books
Age-appropriate books like Lily Hates Goodbyes or The Invisible String can help explain separation, change, and connection. Use maps and photos to show them where you’re going and what it looks like.

📦 Give Them a Role
Let them help pack their things, choose the colors for their new room, or decide which toys go in the travel bag. This gives them a sense of control and ownership over the process.

📍 Keep Routines Familiar
From bedtime stories to Saturday pancakes, sticking to traditions provides emotional comfort. Even in hotels or temporary housing, your routines signal “home.”

🗺️ Talk Positively About the New Place
Find something fun to look forward to: “There’s a park with a huge slide near the new house!” or “You’ll be close to a cousin you can play with every weekend.”

🧸 Make Goodbyes Meaningful
Create memory books, have goodbye parties, or let them write notes to friends. Teaching them to say goodbye in a healthy way builds long-term emotional resilience.

🤝 Find Support Early
Tap into on-base resources, school counselors, or peer support groups for military kids. And don’t forget—your MIL-Estate Support agent can connect you with local groups and family-friendly events in your new area.

A supported child becomes a confident child. Your effort now will help them adjust better in every future move.

🇺🇸 MIL-Estate Support is powered by military-connected agents who understand your lifestyle. We can help you no matter where military life takes you.

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